Disparity And Difference Between Rich And Poor
Rich and poor people exist in every society and there are differences between them. The fact remains that we can get to our goals depending on our motives, desires, hard-work and how much effort we put into what we have passion and interest on. The rich are more determined to archive their goals no matter what it takes and the poor are kind of skeptical about their decision and how much effort they don’t want to put into things because of fear and lack of zeal. Determination to make success and risk taking is a matter of choice which is, do I want to do whatever it takes to get up there and become rich or do I want to stay where I am and manage whatever life and the society in which I find myself throws at me or has to offer?. http://www.getrichslowly.org/blog/2011/11/01/what-are-the-differences-between-the-rich-and-the-poor/
The rich people are those that have the power, authority and influence especially in their business, work and daily activities and the rich always think of what to do to turn what they have into more and they are always ready to take whatever risk that needs be taken to get their goals, they always have the mindset of acting in spite of fear and are ready to take risks, no matter what it takes and always want to make things happen. The poor are always contented with what life has to offer and do not think outside the box and are not adventurous in any way but are more concerned about their daily job and living their lives the way they see it. the poor never want to venture and always have after thoughts and allow fear to stop them and most times, they do not put any effort into looking for solution to their problems.
I want us to look at some critical difference between the rich and the poor people:
The rich are trusting unless you give them a good reason to doubt while the poor are very skeptical about things and situations.
The poor makes a lot of assumptions and the poor like asking questions because of answers and solutions to whatever is their problem.
The rich always see, recognize and focus on opportunities, they don’t waste time in grabbing it while the poor always look for obstacles.
Rich people are always persistent and committed to their life goals and dreams while the poor do not.
The good thing is that everybody have the potential and tendencies of being rich and poor depending on the effort you put into it and how focused you are and that includes you and me. The most important thing is having the right mindset which will help you in whatever your focus or achievements are in overcoming all challenges of life. The greatest key of all time is you not giving up and cultivating the right habit. Focus, determination and hard-work will help you in achieving the financial freedom you want. You must believe that you are the one to make things happen for you and not other people, society or events. wealth is a possibility for everybody but few determined and focused always hit their target or goals.
CAUTION TO BE TAKEN ABOUT THE PROBLEM OF SCAM .
WE WONDER AT WHAT SCAM REALLY IS AND WHAT IT IS ALL ABOUT?,FROM MY LITTLE UNDERSTANDING:IT IS A PROCESS WHERE ONE SHAKES HAND WITH YOU AS A FRIEND ON GROUNDS OF BUSINESS OR FRIENDSHIP AND THEN TURNS BACK TO SMACK OR SLAP YOU IN THE FACE.
THE FACTORS WHICH MAKES US VICTIMS COULD BE AS A RESULT OF WILL FOR BETTER LIFE ,GREED,STUPIDITY AND SOMETIMES IGNORANCE AND WE ARE SOMETIMES LIKE AN OPEN SEA WITHOUT BORDER OR BOUNDARIES,THAT NEEDS GUIDANCE AND ADVICE OR ELSE TOTAL POLLUTION OR DISASTER.IF YOU ARE SO BLINDED BY GREED,THAT ALL YOU CAN THINK ABOUT IS WHEN DO I GET CHECK?,WHEN DO I GET PAID?,HOW MUCH MONEY WILL I MAKE NEXT WEEK?,THEN YOU NEED TO BECAREFUl.
SCAM GENERATED FROM AN INSATIABLE WANT OF MAN,WHICH CAN BE AS A RESULT OF WILL FOR BETTER LIFE ,GREED,IGNORANCE AND STUPIDITY, WHICH SOMETIMES GIVES ROOM FOR MANIPULATION BY THE BAD EGGS OF THE SOCIETY.IT CAN NOT BE DETERMINED WHEN SCAMMING STARTED BUT, IT REVOLVES ROUND PERSONAL,BUSINESS AND GENERAL ISSUES ESPECIALLY MONEY.
PEOPLE ARE SCAMMED THROUGH DIFFERENT MEDIA FOR EXAMPLE: INTERNET,TELEPHONE AND OTHER MEANS OF COMMUNICATION AND GENERALLY THROUGH DAY TO DAY CONTACTS.
THE QUESTION IS WHAT CAN WE DO TO ADDRESS OR AVOID THIS PROBLEM THAT EATS THROUGH OUR SYSTEM?
- BE CAREFUL WITH WHOM YOU DEAL WITH,ESPECIALLY A STRANGER.
- USE SEPARATE EMAIL ADDRESS WHEN YOU POST MESSAGES TO ANY PUBLIC FORUM.
- DONT GIVE OUT ANY FINANCIAL INFORMATION.
- SET UP FILTERS IN YOUR EMAIL.
- AVOID ANY OF THE QUICK MONEY MAKING PROGRAMS YOU SEE ADVERTISED ON TV,RADIO,PRINT OR THE INTERNET.
WHAT WOULD BE YOUR SUGGESTION?
What is the value of a hobby
Hobby is the passion you have for doing something that makes you happy depending on your passion. Talking about hobbies, there are all kinds of hobbies depending on your area of interest , designation or what you are passionate about. It ‘s like the parents who make it a hobby to take care of their kids on daily basis, If we need to check our Interests and hobbies, some people like going for a bike ride every morning while some like road walking, exercising at the gym, swimming and a lot more.
Other people like doing what they have the zeal or passion for, which is always the source of inspiration for them. If we look at it critically, having a hobby or passion in doing something is a very good exercise or measure because it helps you in maintaining and exercising your duties which in some cases are mandatory especially parenting , but generally it is always a good thing to develop a hobby in doing something, let’s look at our kids who always like playing with their toys at all times, playing video games on the internet and watching TV at all times, these are all part of a hobby.
some people like reading, blogging, going on Facebook on regular basis to chat and talk with friends and some people take to Instagram,twitter,linked in and other social media. All this process have become a hobby for each person thereby helping in our efforts. some people cannot do without going to the theater to watch movies and with the holiday around the corner, is more motive for them to run along to watch more movies and this has become a passion or hobby for them.
Sometimes having a hobby or doing something we like helps in killing stress and sadness for instance when you are sad or unhappy, you can develop the habit or passion for reading especially good and interesting books and novels which will take you to a different world and thereby helping you in taking away your sadness. There are other kind of hobbies and they include:
- Cooking, baking , sewing, washing, fishing, drawing, makeup, sewing and a lot more and theses are part of the areas where people develop passion. Some college students like taking part in plays and drama organized by a literary society in their school.
2. Photography is another passion which some people like with all their heart, especially in summer and as we all know taking beautiful pictures in different locations could be very exciting
3. Music and dance is another hobby that gives you joy, solace and happiness. It will always be a great thing if you can take the pleasure of taking classes and it could be a great fun too.
4. Stamp collecting is a passive hobby which is passion for some other people.
5. Going for a walk and spending sometime alone in contemplation and peace could be a great passion and hobby for others
6. Playing guitar and composing songs could be a great hobby which is always appreciated.
7. volleyball , baseball, basketball, soccer, knitting, camping are also hobbies for some people.
Creating a hobby is always very helpful especially in distress, it helps you to focus your mind on something else and it also helps in making you appreciate what you have passion for , especially what gives you solace and peace of mind. As we all know doing what makes us happy most, always helps motivate and elevate us in our job’s and businesses and whatever we intend doing. What is most important about having a hobby is that it makes us happy and we should always go for happiness.
Trust and Distrust
Trust is the beginning of every good marriage, but when trust is not there anymore, it takes the grace of God for trust to exist again in that relationship. A spouse can forgive, but that painful experience will make it difficult for the offended spouse to let go for fear that it could happen again. For some, it is easier to forgive than to forget. Trusting and getting hurt is bad enough, so, taking chances for the occurrence is not an option? Putting up barriers of protection is not uncommon for a wounded spouse.
Distrust is very common between spouses especially when one has cheated and this situation might weaken a marriage that needs trust to grow. Distrust is like putting on a guard if in any way there is cheating or occurrence of it again. It is a means of protection. On the other hand, it is certainly not impossible to trust again, but it takes some effort and determination for it usually does not happen easily or quickly in any way.
A victim once said after reconciliation with her husband, that she realized what infidelity can cause to a family life and she compared it to a starving dog snatching a beautiful wedding cake. Getting the trust back was like looking for a piece of needle in a haystack but the truth is that the remaining cake was still beautiful, but the unforgettable part is that anytime you look at the remaining cake you kind of miss the complete cake before the dog got into it and that makes you bitter, sad and angry. the question is, how could a loving spouse take such beauty away from a loved one he promised to cherish? that kind of pain is often indescribable and a lot will surely be affected including Life itself.
Marriage is not the only institution that has cheating issues . Many Cheaters victimize their relationships with children, loving friends, other close family members, and even themselves. The bad part about this is that it may affect cheaters’ families because of the pain, embarrassment, and awareness of community gossip it will cause. most times such scandal can lower the value or importance of a family within a community. The whole families may suffer because of it. A good friend does not want to witness her best friend’s husband in a compromising situation with another women. A member of the family does not want to hear gossip about their loved one from other people in the community. the Young people contemplating marriage one day might lose faith and respect in the marriage institution due to this infidelity crisis in the society, and celebrity gossip on the media is not helping either. All of these life experiences are painful for many family members and others to bear when it comes to issues of cheating and infidelity.
The unfortunate thing is that cheating and crisis at home always have very bad or negative effects on the children because it gets them confused and they end up being the most wounded victims. A lot of children suffer silently and some could blame themselves and the bad part is that this parent problem could spill over into the rest of their lives thereby causing various dysfunctions in their own personal families. The best thing to do if situations like this arise is to go for counseling but many families do not look at it that way because many families do not see the need to get it.
Beyond Boundaries: Learning to Trust Again in Relationships
Cheating is never a good thing both in a marriage or any relationship, and making irrelevant and unnecessary excuses are not acceptable either and as we all know the consequences are always devastating for all parties involved, especially the children and the offended spouse.“Sometime the effects of cheating on the victims involved could be devastating especially, if they end up living that relationship for another and it could be a problem if the parties involved are not fully healed, so the best we can do to avoid any kind of trauma in our lives is being sincere and honest with our friends, spouse and acquaintances.
Why do you Apologize ?
It is a small but big world and as humans we are bound to make mistakes one way or the other but the question is do we really have to apologize for our mistakes and why if we need to? somebody told me perfection is far from us and that is why we make our mistakes but the question is still there. Sometimes we make mistakes and refuse to acknowledge or accept that we are wrong because we don’t consider or accept the fact that we have made a mistake or sometimes our ego get over us and we stubbornly refuse to apologize. Is there really a problem when we refuse to acknowledge our error?, not necessarily but the fact remains that we might repeat same mistake next time if we don’t take responsibility for it.
There are categories to making mistakes, some people make mistakes knowingly and some make it unknowingly but what do we do when we are in this situation, do we say “I AM SORRY?” when we make mistakes which from my point of view would be the right thing to do and the matter would be resolved and you will be conscious of not making that type of mistake next time. It is always a good thing to apologize if it involves another party.
As we all know a lot of people do not plan on mistakes or errors but sometimes too much stress could be a reason which sometimes could be caused by lack of concentration. Mistakes happen in all kinds of environment such as at home, work, school, business place and other areas and different situations can lead to mistakes. A leader who refuses to accept the fact that they are wrong would always have lack of trust from the people around him because he never accepts his fault and own up to his mistakes due to pride and ego.
It will be a good thing if anyone can own up to their mistakes and avoid guilt or fear especially when you did something wrong in the office by misplacing a file for a meeting. Best thing to do is to let your boss know immediately and apologize for it indicates your humility and i am sorry always communicates respect and this might be the best time to get the best advice and concerns from your boss and i am sure it will help you in making sure the same mistake does not repeat itself. My Question is should a manager, friends, acquaintance and any other person apologize for their mistakes?, what i will say is yes.
THE BENEFIT OF LAUGHING AND HOW IT GIVES YOU RELIEF OF MIND AND JOY
LAUGHING AWAY YOUR DISTRESS, STRESS, PAIN, SORROWS AND THOUGHTS IS A NATURAL PROCESS WHICH CHANGES THE MOOD OF A MAN .STUDIES SO FAR HAVE SHOWN THAT LAUGHTER CAN RELIEVE PAIN, BRING GREATER HAPPINESS AND EVEN INCREASE IMMUNITY.
LAUGHING MOST OF THE TIME IS AN INDICATION OF HAPPINESS, JOY AND ALSO AN INDICATION OF GOOD MOOD WHICH ALWAYS ARE VERY USEFUL FOR HEALTH AND FOR GOOD LIFE. HAVE YOU EVER FELT LIKE YOU HAVE TO LAUGH OR CRY?, HAVE YOU EXPERIENCED THAT GOOD FEELING AFTER A GOOD LAUGH?. LAUGHTER PROVIDES A PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL HAPPINESS OR RELEASE AND A GOOD BELLY LAUGH EXERCISES THE DIAPHRAGM,CONTRACTS THE ABS AND EVEN WORKS OUT THE SHOULDERS,LEAVING MUSCLES MORE RELAXED.
LAUGHTER TAKES THE MIND AWAY FROM ANGER ,GUILT,STRESS AND NEGATIVE EMOTIONS IN A MORE BENEFICIAL WAY THAN OTHER MERE DISTRACTIONS. IT DISSOLVES DISTRESSING EMOTIONS , YOU CANT FEEL ANXIOUS,ANGRY,OR SAD WHEN YOU ARE LAUGHING.LAUGHTER HELPS YOU RELAX AND RECHARGES.IT REDUCES STRESS AND INCREASES ENERGY,ENABLING YOU TO STAY FOCUSED AND ACCOMPLISH MORE.LAUGHING WITH OTHERS IS MORE POWERFUL THAN LAUGHING ALONE. SHARED LAUGHTER IS ONE OF THE MOST EFFECTIVE TOOLS FOR KEEPING RELATIONSHIP FRESH AND EXCITING.
WHAT DOES LAUGHTER REALLY DO TO A MAN? :
LOWERS STRESS HORMONES
RELAXES YOUR MUSCLES
PREVENTS HEART DISEASE
ADDS JOY AND ZEST TO LIFE
ATTRACTS OTHERS TO US
ENHANCES TEAM WORK
HELPS DEFUSE CONFLICT
PROMOTES GROUP BONDING
LAUGHS AND HUMOR HELPS YOU STAY EMOTIONALLY HEALTHY, IT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD AND THE GOOD FEELING THAT YOU GET WHEN YOU LAUGH REMAINS WITH YOU AFTER THE LAUGHTER SUBSIDES. IT HAS BEEN DISCOVERED THAT LAUGHTER AND JOY BOOSTS IMMUNE FUNCTIONS AND WITHOUT A DOUBT , JOYFUL PEOPLE LIVE LONGER AND HAVE HEALTHIER LIVES. SO READ YOUR FAVORITE BOOKS,WATCH YOUR FAVORITE COMEDIANS AND LAUGH IT UP !
HOW DO YOUYOUR
ANGER CAN BE VERY CRITICAL AND THERE ARE DIFFERENT KIND OF SITUATION WHICH ARISE AND BRINGS ABOUT ANGER. SOMETIMES WE FIND IT DIFFICULT TO CONTROL OUR ANGER ESPECIALLY WHEN WE ARE EXTREMELY UPSET,UNHAPPY OR HAVE AN INTENSE
MY QUESTION IS:
- IS IT REALLY BAD TO FEEL UPSET AND ANGRY ?
- HOW DO I GET ANGRY WITHOUT LETTING THE OTHER PARTY FEEL BAD ?
- HOW DO I DEAL WITH MY ANGER IN A MORE POLITE AND BETTER WAY ?
I REMEMBER A PARTICULAR INCIDENT WHEN A FRIEND CAME VISITING AND WE WERE ALL HAVING A GOOD TIME AND CHATTING AND DURING OUR WE WERE MAKING JEST OF EACH OTHER AND IT GOT TO A STAGE THAT I WAS MADE A JEST OF AND I GOT SO ANGRY THAT I FELT REALLY BAD, BUT INSTEAD OF HITTING OR FIGHTING I CONTROLLED MYSELF AND WALKED OUT OF THE AND WENT VISITING ANOTHER FRIEND IN OTHER TO COOL OFF AND GOT MYSELF BACK IN PLACE. I CONSIDER MYSELF AN ANGRY PERSON BUT SOMETIMES I GET OUT OF CONTROL OVER A LITTLE THING AND I REACT FOOLISHLY AT THAT . I OFTEN REGRET MY ACTIONS WHEN I BECOME CALM AFTER MY ANGER . I WISHED I HAD NOT REACTED THE WAY I DID AND I HATE MYSELF FOR IT.
THERE WAS A FRIEND WHO SHARED HIS LITTLE EXPERIENCE OVER THE WEEKEND WITH ME. HE WENT VISITING HIS BROTHER AND HIS BROTHER GOT HIM SO ANGRY THAT WHEN HE GOT BACK HOME HE FINISHED A POT OF JAM, IS THAT NOT FUNNY ? .THERE ARE DIFFERENT CASES LIKE THIS OUT THERE AND EVERYBODY REACTS DIFFERENTLY DEPENDING ON SITUATION. WHEN YOU ARE ANGRY WHAT DO YOU DO ?
- DO YOU GO FOR A DRIVE ?
- DO YOU YELL AT THE PERSON YOU ARE ANGRY WITH ?
- DO YOU TALK TO A FRIEND OR MEMBER ?
- DO YOU PHYSICALLY HIT THE PERSON INVOLVED BECAUSE YOU WERE SO ANGRY ?
- DID YOU CALL THEM NAMES BECAUSE YOU WERE ANGRY ?
- DID YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE OR GO TO ANOTHER ROOM TO THINK ?
- DID YOU GO TO A QUIET PLACE TO COOL OFF ?
- DID YOU GO TO A BAR TO DRINK BECAUSE YOU WERE ANGRY?
HMMMMMMM! NO MATTER WHAT SITUATION OR CIRCUMSTANCES THAT MAKE US ANGRY WE SHOULD LEARN TO CONTROL OUR ANGER. WHAT DO YOU THINK ?.
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HOW TO CURE COLD
COLD AS WE ALL KNOW HAS BEEN AN ISSUE FOR SOME PEOPLE ESPECIALLY WHEN WINTER IS APPROACHING AND SOMEHOW, THIS IS A LONG TIME ISSUE THAT NEEDS REDRESSING AND WHICH HAS REALLY GIVEN SOME PEOPLE SLEEPLESS NIGHTS ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS GETTING TO THE END OF THE YEAR SOME PEOPLE GET NERVOUS OF THE COMING WEATHER, I HAVE SEEN AND MET SOME PEOPLE WHO FEEL IT IS A PROBLEM FOR THEM,SAYING THAT THEY DON’T LIKE IT DESPITE THE FACT THAT THEY HAVE BEEN WITH IT ALL THEIR LIVES ,THEY STILL COMPLAIN, WHILE SOME ENJOY THE FACT THAT COLD IS ON THE WAY AND LOOKING BACK THE MEMORY LANE AND THE FUN THAT COMES WITH IT, ESPECIALLY THE ACTIVITIES THAT COMES WITH IT.FROM OPINION THE QUESTION ARISES : DO EVERYBODY ENJOY THE COLD WEATHER?, OR ARE THEY JUST PRETENDING TO LIKE IT BECAUSE THEY HAVE NO CHOICE WHENEVER ITS HERE?.
I WAS DISCUSSING WITH A FRIEND THE OTHER DAY AND I ASKED HIM, WHAT EXACTLY IS HIS OPINION ABOUT THE COLD WEATHER AND WHAT DOES HE THINK COULD BE A SOLUTION OR CURE AND HE SAID HE HAS NOTHING TO SAY, AFTER A LOT OF DISCUSSION WITH DIFFERENT FRIENDS AND PEOPLE I KNOW , I CAME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT THERE ARE MEASURES TO TAKE CONCERNING THIS ISSUE:
- A STRONG BLANKET TO WRAP ROUND MY BODY
- I NEED TO TURN UP THE FURNACE IN THE HOUSE
- I NEED TO PUT ON A SNUGLY
- I NEED A VERY SERIOUS EXERCISE
- I NEED LOTS OF CLOTHING AND I MUST TRY MY BEST TO STAY INDOOR IF NEED BE
AFTER A LOT OF THOUGHT, I REMEMBERED ONE PARTICULAR DAY THAT THE WEATHER WAS SO TERRIBLE,THAT I WAS SHAKING AND MY TEETH WAS CLAPPING, I CAME TO THE CONCLUSION THAT TO CURE THE COLD I HAVE TO TAKE THE ABOVE MEASURES. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY AND THAT IS WHY ONE NEEDS TO TAKE A BETTER CARE OF THEMSELVES ESPECIALLY IN A COLD WEATHER.
Why Honesty is important in friendship
Honesty and sincerity is the foundation of every good thing, especially when it comes to relationships which could go a long way, although,True and real friends are hard to find this days but they are always there at the corner as long as you have a honest and sincere heart towards each other and i believe Honesty in a relationship is a possibility as long as there is an established trust. There are many factors which makes up a good friend and the most important of them all is being able to open up to each other and not keeping secrets from each other.
Your best friends are always there by you, no matter what your situation is and they will support you and make sure you archive your goals in life because you have become part of them and they part of you but transparency and honesty is the key. secrets and lies can destroy what both of you have built especially, if you have been friends for a long time. You don't want your friend to feel betrayed especially by you and i am sure you don't want to feel betrayed by a friend either. Secrets and lies are always not the best in whatever situation you may find yourself, even if you think it's better than not telling the truth or being honest with that friend. Truth always comes out at the end and they could feel betrayed.
Honesty is the source and the pillar of a good friendship. For us to Build and or keep up this honesty, we need to make conscious effort to tell the truth, be able to communicate freely and you have to keep to your word. Reliability to each other at all times will go a long way, confrontation could be helpful sometimes which will clarify some issues that you probably do not understand. In order to have an honest and trusted relationship, It is always a good idea to learn how to open up with each other. Telling lies to a friend might end up devaluing the relationship you have built with that person if found out.
From my little understanding, honesty simply means you have to agree to say the truth no matter , it means giving information according to the facts. It is almost like saying "I promise to say the truth and nothing but the truth, so help me God " when someone is not opening up or is not saying the truth, could be taken as dishonesty. The truth is nobody wants to deal with friends they can't trust to give their sincere opinion about a particular topic. You always want to know your friends opinion instead of them just accepting whatever you say to them because you are friends. If there is no sincerity and honesty between friends then that relationship is not worth it, One way or the other honesty is a way of showing respect to your friends and it proves that you are not fake.
Here comes my Question: "would you rather risk loosing a friend by being honest or would you rather keep that friend by not speaking your mind?" My sincere opinion is that honesty is always the best teacher and the best policy when we are dealing with our friends or anybody else. I will like to have your opinion about this topic