What Is Your Biggest Regret
We all have regrets one way or the other during the cause of our lives, there are different kinds of regrets such as regret about loosing loved ones who were so dear to us, regret about loosing contacts with important friends and school mates, regret about not doing the right thing at the right time, regret about doing the right thing at the wrong time, regret about not fulfilling our life goals and aspirations, regret about our achievements so far, regret about not going after what we want especially when we had it at our finger tips, regrets about our marriage, regret about associating with the wrong friends and acquaintances, regret about not being able to differentiate between a good friend and a bad one, regret about not setting our goals as we should and so on, there are so many things that can bring about regrets but the good thing is that, once we realize where we defaulted we can always correct our selves, This makes us strong and moving on would not be a problem and it also gives room to caution from unnecessary regrets in the future.
A friend of mine was telling me of how much regret he had about not being able to show appreciation to his parents for how they raised him, because they are no more. One way or the other we do have people that we love and we hope and assume that they will always be in our lives, but due to unforeseen circumstances beyond us they are there no more or we lose contact with them because we do not realize how valuable they were to us.
Many a time we do not know the value of what we have and how precious it is until we lose it, especially if we were in a sweet and loving relationship such as marriage and other kinds of relationship, Due to our unconsciousness at the time of our relationship, we refuse to recognize its value until after it slips out of our hands. some time we regret not paying attention to what our parents thought us as kids and teenagers, but latter realized its value as adults. somebody was talking about going to a place where he would have achieved a lot and fulfill his dreams, but did not go after it when it was necessary to do so.
Errors and mistakes always gives room for corrections and it is always a motivator for better life which simply means what ever mistake we did in the past can bring about our success and achievements by learning from the past. because of our regrets from the past we can always learn from it by:
1. Identifying and checking our weaknesses
2. Using our mistakes as a yardstick for teaching ourselves and for correction
3. Using the privilege as a way of adaptation
4. Trying to focus and improve on whatever we are doing
5. Trying to figure out what we need to appreciate even in times of crisis
6. Trying to improve and check our relationships
7. Accepting blames and moving on