IS IT BETTER TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?

  • LOVE OR FANTASY,MONEY OR LOVE?

MARRIAGE IS  A VERY CRUCIAL ISSUE ,BUT INTERESTING TO DISCUSS, I WAS SOMEWHERE WITH A GROUP OF FRIENDS AS USUAL AND ONE OF US CAME UP WITH A QUESTION ABOUT LOVE AND MONEY AND SOMEONE SAID WHAT ABOUT IT?, AND HE ASKED IF IT WAS GOOD TO MARRY FOR LOVE OR MONEY?,SOME TOPIC FOR DISCUSSION AS USUAL AND HE JUST SAID WHAT DO YOU GUYS THINK?,SOME SAID MARRYING FOR MONEY IS THE BEST AND SOME SAID  MARRYING FOR LOVE WAS THE BEST AND THE LAST PERSON SAID MARRYING FOR BOTH IS  NECESSARY.

money and love which one is best

marriage in love and money makes life good

EVERYONE WANTS SECURITY OF LIFE ESPECIALLY IN MARRIAGE, PREVIOUSLY IT WAS ASSUMED THAT PEOPLE SHOULD MARRY FOR THE FEELINGS THAT THEY HAVE FOR EACH OTHER,ON THE OTHER HAND MARRYING FOR MONEY IS FOR SECURITY IN A RELATIONSHIP, BUT I WOULD RATHER SAY, IT HAS TO BE  BALANCED.MARRYING SOLELY FOR LOVE WONT FEED YOUR FAMILY,WHILE MARRYING SOLELY FOR MONEY WONT SATISFY YOUR LIFE IN THE LONG RUN.

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MANY RELATIONSHIP HAVE PROBLEM DUE TO FINANCIAL ISSUES AND ISSUES RELATING TO MONEY CAN DESTROY LOVE OVERTIME,ON THE OTHER HAND ,WITHOUT LOVE AND ROMANCE ,MARRIAGE LIFE WILL BECOME BORING AND  DRY AND MAY LEAD TO DISTORTION IN INTIMACY.IN MANY CASES IN THE PRESENT AGE, MANY YOUNG GIRLS WOULD PREFER A RELATIONSHIP THAT GOES WITH MONEY, BECAUSE  IT IS BELIEVED THAT MARRIAGE WITH MONEY IS A SECURITY OF LIFE FOR THEM, WHICH MAKES SOME PEOPLE CALL SOME GIRLS “GOLD DIGGERS” BUT IN TRUTH NO ONE EVER SAYS A MAN IS A “BEAUTY-DIGGER” BECAUSE HE WANTS A BEAUTIFUL GIRL, SO I WOULD RATHER SAY,MONEY AND LOVE IS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP, BECAUSE THEY CANT DO WITHOUT EACH OTHER . WHAT DO YOU THINK?

IS IT ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH, EVEN WHEN IT HURTS?

 KNOWING THE TRUTH DESPITE ITS PAIN

THE TRUTH IS AN INSTRUMENT OF PEACE AND FREEDOM WHICH GIVES YOU PEACE OF MIND AND HAPPINESS.  NOT KNOWING THE TRUTH AND NOT BEING TRUTHFUL IS LIKE JACK AND JILL CLIMBING UP THE HILL TO FETCH A PAIL OF WATER AND JACK FALLING DOWN AND BREAKING HIS CROWN AND CAME TUMBLING AFTER, WHICH SIMPLY MEANS LYING HAS CONSEQUENCES AND A LIE OF 10 YEARS WILL BE OVERCOME BY TRUTH ONE DAY.  SOMETIMES WE FIND IT DIFFICULT TELLING THE TRUTH ESPECIALLY TO OUR LOVED ONES BECAUSE OF THE SITUATION THAT SURROUNDS IT, BUT IN REALITY IT IS MORE PAINFUL WHEN WE REFUSE TO SHARE WHAT WE HAVE GONE THROUGH OR WHAT WE ARE EXPERIENCING WITH OUR LOVED ONES BY TELLING THEM THE TRUTH BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO HURT THEM, BUT IT IS BETTER TO TELL THE TRUTH AND LET THE DEVIL BE ASHAMED.

truth has no agenda

truth has no agenda

SOMETIMES BECAUSE WE DONT WANT TO HURT OUR PARTNERS, FRIENDS AND ACQUAINTANCES FEELINGS WE REFUSE TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH , BUT TELLING THE TRUTH IS LIKE SHOWING RESPECT, LOVE, CARE AND LETTING YOUR PARTNER KNOW YOU HAVE FEELINGS AND UNDERSTANDING FOR THEM AND WANT THEM TO BE PART OF WHAT YOU ARE EXPERIENCING. SOMETIMES TELLING THE TRUTH CAN SAVE, BECAUSE ADVICE THAT WILL SOLVE THAT PROBLEM MIGHT SHOW UP DURING YOUR DISCUSSION.  TRUTH IS BITTER BUT BETTER THAN LIES WHICH WILL CATCH UP ON YOU EVENTUALLY.  BEING UNTRUTHFUL CAN BREAK A PEACEFUL AND LOVING RELATIONSHIP.  TELLING THE TRUTH ACTUALLY BRINGS SOLUTION AND UNDERSTANDING AND LIFE WILL CONTINUE AND HAPPINESS WILL SET IN ONCE THE TRUTH IS REVEALED EVEN THOUGH IT HURTS.

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truth and its effect

SOMETIMES KNOWING THE TRUTH CAN BE VERY UNPLEASANT, BUT KNOWING IT FROM SOMEONE YOU LOVE AND CARE FOR AND FROM CLOSE ACQUAINTANCES COULD SIMPLY MEAN THEY HAVE RESPECT FOR YOU AND IT WILL BUILD TRUST EVENTUALLY.  ALTHOUGH THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO THINK TELLING THE TRUTH MIGHT HURT OTHERS FEELINGS AND BECAUSE OF THIS ,THEY WILL RATHER NOT SAY IT.  IT IS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH AND IMPROVE THAN BEING IGNORANT AND AWAY FROM REALITY AND NOT BEING ABLE TO KNOW WHERE YOU HAVE GONE WRONG. BY PROLONGING A LIE MIGHT LEAD TO CONTINUOUS SUFFERING WITHOUT SOLUTION FOR EXAMPLE: A SPOUSE SUFFERING FROM AN UNHAPPY MARRIAGE, MIGHT FACE A LOT OF HEART TRAUMA BY NOT TELLING THEIR PARTNER HOW THEY FEEL, FORGETTING THAT NOT TELLING THEM THE TRUTH MIGHT LEAD TO CONTINUOUS PAIN AND BEING HURT.  UNTIL HE OR SHE FINDS OUT THE TRUTH THERE CAN NEVER BE A SOLUTION.

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truth and its value

THERE IS ALWAYS A SAYING THAT THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE, SO IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH EVEN IF IT HURTS WHICH IS MY OPINION. THE QUESTION IS : IS IT ALWAYS BETTER TO KNOW THE TRUTH, EVEN IF IT HURTS, WHAT DO YOU THINK?
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What Is Involved In Being A Fine Parent

What It Takes To Be A Fine Parent

chinese familyBeing a fine parent could be easy, tough and adventurous at the same time due to the challenges that come with it especially when we have challenging and stubborn children, but it is always a good as a parent because of the joy and happiness that comes with it.  Everybody no matter how bad they are or how bad their situation, they always do their best and many parent want their kids to look at them as role models and be proud of them, there is the saying about great parents not born but made, great and fine parent could result from the passion and joy of being parents.

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What does it really take being a good parent?, Fine parents are the ones that want to make sure their children are happy, no matter what the situation is or could be for them, they always want their kids to put on the best clothing, go to the best school, get the best education, keep them away from harm or any form of danger, always providing for them in times of need.  Sometimes it is tough for some parents, especially when their kids are not doing the right thing, they always try their best by being there for them no matter what the situation or circumstance.

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A good and fine parent should make sure their kids are serious with their school home work and their studies and should teach them how to do all the necessary chores at home.  It is good to create time for them by taking them out to watch movies, swimming and other forms of recreation activities, no matter how tight their schedule is, sometimes we could be frustrated with the attitude and behavior of some of our kids, but we should learn patience and be in control of our frustration and anger.

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We need to check what they are doing, what they watch on television, the types of friends they make or talk and who they hang out with especially as teenagers, we should do our best to caution or correct them when the need arises, especially when they use wrong languages, swear words,curses and profane words.  As we all know some children could be defiant, all we need to do is talk to them calmly and let them realize the effect of their action and their mistakes, but try not to get too upset with them.

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We need to do our best as parents by making ourselves and our kids happy, we should give them audience when the need arises and should also be strict with them when it is necessary. As fine parents we need discipline them but to some level and whatever we do, we should try our best to control our anger and frustration.

 

 

should one apologize for making mistakes

Why do you Apologize ?

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It is a small but big world and as humans we are bound to make mistakes one way or the other but the question is do we really have to apologize for our mistakes and why if we need to? somebody told me perfection is far from us and that is why we make our mistakes but the question is still there. Sometimes we make mistakes and refuse to acknowledge or accept that we are wrong because we don’t consider or accept the fact that we have made a mistake or sometimes our ego get over us and we stubbornly refuse  to apologize. Is there really a problem when we refuse to acknowledge our error?, not necessarily but the fact remains that we might repeat same mistake next time if we don’t take responsibility for it.

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There are categories to making mistakes, some people make mistakes knowingly and some make it unknowingly but what do we do when we are in this situation, do we say “I AM SORRY?”  when we make mistakes which from my point of view would be the right thing to do and the matter would be resolved and you will be conscious of not making that type of mistake next time. It is always a good thing to apologize if it involves another party.
images3 As we all know a lot of people do not plan on mistakes or errors but sometimes too much stress could be a reason which sometimes could be caused by lack of concentration. Mistakes happen in all kinds of environment such as at home, work, school, business place and other areas and different situations can lead to mistakes. A leader who refuses to accept the fact that they are wrong would always have lack of trust from the people around him because he never accepts his fault and own up to his mistakes due to pride and ego.

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It will be a good thing if anyone can own up to their mistakes and avoid guilt or fear especially when you did something wrong in the office by misplacing a file for a meeting. Best thing to do is to let your boss know immediately and apologize for it indicates your humility and i am sorry always communicates respect and this might be the best time to get the best advice and concerns from your boss and i am sure it will help you in making sure the same mistake does not repeat itself. My Question is should a manager, friends, acquaintance and any other person apologize for their mistakes?, what i will say is yes.

The Black Friday

THE EXCITEMENT, THE COURAGE AND THE ACHIEVEMENT

Black Friday is a good and special day to buy basic TV set and other types of electronics like laptops, mp3 and other products of interest. This is a special day almost like the day when the children of Israel go up to Jerusalem to worship the lord, it is special and significant because a lot of people look forward to it and they already have a plan set for that day, months or weeks before the day.  Black Friday is very exciting due to the cost of buying things at a low price and this causes eagerness and anxiety for that day  and this makes it possible for some people to create a game plan for that day and some go into the habit of finding out when the deals start and when they are expiring, The whole excitement is about saving money by buying things at a cheap rate instead of buying at the normal price, part of the excitement is people going out on a queue for hours waiting for the doors of stores to open for them to start shopping. Some people set up their alerts so that they will know when the store opens, so they will not miss out on the deals.

English: DC USA, Best Buy, Black Friday

English: DC USA, Best Buy, Black Friday (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

The interesting thing about this whole episode is that a lot of people are ready to take the risk of staying in the cold until they get what they want and some make a game plan by setting alarms like Google alerts and other alarms so that the deal won’t pass them.  Some start looking for flyers as soon as they come out so they can decide exactly what they would love to buy and these are all nice moves for this special program.  The consumers know they can get these products at other seasons but they prefer the black Friday auction because they believe it’s cheaper and better for them.

 English: DC USA, Bed Bath & Beyond, Black Friday

English: DC USA, Bed Bath & Beyond, Black Friday (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Everyone likes getting a good deal, discounted TV or other interesting items on Black Friday, Although there are a few deal-finding tricks and ways that will allow you to forget about any other thing, but enjoy Black Friday savings. One of the great achievement that goes with black Friday is the honor and pleasure of buying Toys for the young ones during this holiday shopping season at a discounted price.

 

Best Age For Children To Use Cell-phones

 AGE FOR CHILDREN TO USE CELL-PHONES

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CELL-PHONES HAS BEEN A VERY GOOD MEANS OF COMMUNICATION AND HAS ALSO BEEN A FACTOR TO CONSIDER WHEN IT COMES TO OUR CHILDREN AND THERE USE OF IT.  I WAS DISCUSSING WITH SOME FRIENDS SOMETIME AND THIS QUESTION ABOUT WHEN KIDS SHOULD BE USING MOBILE CELL-PHONES CAME UP, AND EVERYBODY HAD THEIR DIFFERENT OPINION AND SOME SAID AGE 12,13,AND 15 RESPECTIVELY, BUT IN REALITY WHAT AGE WOULD A PARENT WANT THEIR KIDS TO USE PHONES?, BECAUSE OF A LOT OF FACTORS LIKE CORRUPTION, DISCUSSING ISSUES NOT RELATING TO EDUCATION, NOT BEING ABLE TO MONITOR THE CHILD EVEN ON PHONE MAKES SOME PARENTS TO BE CAUTIOUS AND CAREFUL ABOUT WHEN TO ALLOW THEIR KIDS TO USE CELL PHONES.

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FOR ME I THINK USING CELLPHONES FOR CHILDREN DEPENDS ON THE PARENT AND THEIR BELIEVES, OPINIONS AND TRUST THEY HAVE ON THEIR KIDS, SOME PARENTS DUE TO THEIR RELIGION RESTRICT THEIR KIDS FROM USING PHONES UNTIL WHEN THEY ARE BETWEEN AGE 15 AND 16 WHILE SOME GIVE THEIR CHILDREN THE PRIVILEGE FROM AGE 11 OR 12 DEPENDING ON HOW SMART AND RESPONSIBLE THEY THINK THE CHILD IS.
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SOME PARENTS THINK ITS APPROPRIATE FOR A CHILD TO USE CELL-PHONES FROM AGE 12 THAT WAY IT WILL BE EASY FOR THEM TO REACH THE CHILD AND KNOW WHAT THEIR MOVEMENT IS AND THEY COULD EASILY LOCATE WHERE THEY ARE ESPECIALLY IN EMERGENCE AND ALSO, IT MAKES IT EASIER FOR THEM TO MONITOR THEIR KIDS WHEREVER THEY ARE.  SOME PARENTS FEEL SAFE IF THE CHILD HAS A PHONE WHILE OTHERS CONSIDER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF A CHILD BEFORE THEY ALLOW THEM THE USE OF PHONE.

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SOME PARENTS HAVE NO CHOICE AS TO WHEN TO GIVE PHONE TO THEIR KIDS DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES BEYOND THEIR CONTROL, ESPECIALLY FOR MONITORING PURPOSE AND TO BE ABLE TO GET IN TOUCH WITH THEM IF THE NEED ARISES. THE AGE THAT I WILL SUGGEST CELL PHONES FOR CHILDREN WOULD BE FROM AGE 12 AND ABOVE, THAT WAY THE PARENTS CAN COMMUNICATE AND GET IN TOUCH WITH THEM EASILY.

HOARDING AND ITS EFFECTS

WHY DO THEY HOARD AND WHAT DO THEY HOARD?

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hoarding as we all know is a delicate issue to discuss and very difficult to comprehend but from my understanding I will say it is a pattern of a behavior that caused by excessive acquisition and inability or unwillingness to discard large quantities of objects that would seemingly qualify as useless or without  any values because it is not serving a reliable purpose.  There are different kinds of hoarding such as compulsive hoarding, book hoarding, animal hoarding e.t.c.

It is not clear if hoarding is an isolated disorder, or rather a symptom of another condition, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder. The behavior  is more in adults, and is greater in older adults than younger groups, in men versus women.  The factors associated with this disorder includes, depending on alcohol as well as loss of loved ones especially due to death or divorce which could lead to loneliness which might make some people take solace in hoarding, and obsessive-compulsive traits.  People who have suffered an emotional trauma or a brain injury often find house cleaning a very difficult task, thereby turning their house to “garbage Can”.

The effect could be health risks, impaired functioning, economic burden, and adverse effects on friends and family members.  It can prevent typical uses of space to limit activities such as cooking, cleaning, moving through the house, and sleeping. It can also be dangerous if it puts the person involved or others at risk, especially risk of fire, falling, poor sanitation, and other health concerns

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Doris, lived with her 2 children and she described her current behavior as a ‘small problem that mushroomed or arose’ many years ago, along with corresponding marital difficulties and problems.  With the exception of the bathroom, none of the rooms in the house could easily be used for their intended purpose. Entry to the house was through the garage and the kitchen. Hoarding could be very bad if allowed.